How to Turn Up Your Best Friend into Your Boyfriend

How we wish our boyfriend could understand us as our best friend does! Wouldn’t you give anything to be able to chat as openly with your boyfriend as you do with your best friend? Would dating your best friend work? Or would things change? You like your best friend, maybe even love him, but do you feel for him in THAT way? What differentiates a boyfriend from a male best friend?

The answers to these questions are something almost everybody has been looking for. So, is there any real difference between a best friend and a boyfriend apart from the physical aspect of the relationship? Of course there is! The question is “what?” A wise-cracking friend once answered “a boyfriend is someone you spend one hour of the day with and a best friend is someone you talk to for three hours a day trying to figure out what actually happened during the one hour you spent with your boyfriend!”

Basically, a best friend is someone you can open your heart to. You hardly ever need to think twice before saying anything to him. He’s someone you can share your problems with, someone you can always count upon for advice. He’s the one who cheers you up when you are feeling blue, the one who is always, unfailingly there when you need him.

A boyfriend, on the other hand, is someone who provides the romantic angle in your life. He’s the one you can envisage spending your whole life with. He’s your lover, the one who completes you. But you can hardly ever talk unrestrainedly to him. There is a certain code of conduct you may stick to, certain rules that apply. He may make you smile, he may make you cry, but the times when he makes you laugh will be rare…

Wouldn’t it be great to have a best friend-cum-boyfriend? Though it may seem like an easy task, it is not without complications. It is not just a question of asking your best friend out. One needs to make sure that their attraction to their best friend is more than just friendly affection. Also, taking such a step without being certain of a reciprocation of the feelings is extremely foolhardy as one risks losing the friendship that provides so much solace and comfort. Then if all goes well till this point, there is a chance that things won’t work out as well as expected. This is because no matter how close the friendship may be, changing the tag given to the relationship sometimes changes the rules, the boundaries and the expectations from each other. In this case, not only will you end up with a broken heart but also a broken friendship.

Fiddling with friendships in the name of love is rather risky business. However, wanting more than you can get is human nature and people still consider it wise to swap their friendship for a relationship that might or might not work. A piece of advice – calculate the odds before putting your friendship at stake. Friendships last, while relationships usually don’t. So, unless you are very sure that this will work, stay away from such a risk.