Who Should Pay on the First Date?

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Not so many years ago, the question as to who should pay on the first date was obvious, as tradition dictated that the man would treat the woman on a first date, as well as on subsequent days. But things aren’t quite that simple anymore, as it’s not a given that the man will pay on a first date. So nowadays, what exactly is the proper protocol on a first date? Who should pay?

Well, in a perfect world, this would be something that the two people going on a date will have talked about before the time comes when they have to pay, because then you run the risk of starring at one another awkwardly, and that can be embarrassing for both parties. But if the two people haven’t discussed this beforehand, then the man should go into the date assuming that he’s going to be paying for the date. For men, even if you hate the tradition, even if you don’t feel like it, even if you don’t understand it, and even if you’re going on a date with a woman who considers herself a feminist, you should still be prepared to pay on a first date. The fact of the matter is that paying is a sign of generosity and respect, two things that you’d like to convey on a first date. Moreover, a man offering to pay on a first date is not necessarily a sign of gender inequality; it’s merely a kind gesture towards someone you like. [Read more…]

Great Non Confrontational Conversation Topics

Do you ever find yourself on a date with no idea what to talk about other than topics that are going to create disagreement and tension between you and your date? Isn’t it always better to keep things light and fun during a date and avoid those non-confrontational topics that make you feel like you’re on a date rather than a talk show? Well, fear not, because there are more than enough happy and pleasant conversation topics to keep you engaged without causing a stir or getting anyone upset.

Of course, the first step in finding non-confrontational conversation topics is to know which topics to avoid. At the top of that list are topics like religion and politics, which generate topics that few people will agree on, and almost always breed strong responses from people. Even if you know where a person stands on such issues, it’s always possible that a new topic will come up and become a point of contention. On top of the polarizing topics of religion and politics, other topics to avoid include money and family, two issues that often cause people to get defensive, causing confrontation. [Read more…]

What to Wear on a First Date

Nothing in the world quite compares to the combination of excitement and anxiety that comes with going on a first date. Whether it’s a blind date with someone you’ve never seen before, someone you’ve already made a connection with online, or a long time friend you’re hoping can be something more, it’s always a stressful but exciting experience to go on a first date. A big part of the stress that comes with a first date is figuring out what to wear. It’s never easy to figure out what you should wear on a first date, so here are some things to keep in mind when putting together your first-date outfit.

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Obviously, the first date activity matters, as it may dictate the way you dress one way or another. For example, if you’re heading to the opera, you’ll have to dress a certain way, while if you go and play paintball on a first date, you’ll want to be dressed in a completely different way. But if there’s no set dress code for the place you’re going on your first date, always remember that it’s better to be over-dressed than under-dressed. Unless you show up to a heavy metal concert wearing a tuxedo, it never hurts to over-dress for an occasion; the worst thing that will happen is that you’ll be wearing dress pants and a collared shirt while everyone else in the room is wearing jeans, and after the initial awkwardness of that wears off you’ll be fine, and it may actually help you make a good first impression on your date, which you’re most likely trying to do anyway. If your date is in a public place, then out-dressing your peers will make your date think that they made the right decision by being out with you, so don’t be afraid to dress up a little bit. [Read more…]