Who Should Pay on the First Date?


Not so many years ago, the question as to who should pay on the first date was obvious, as tradition dictated that the man would treat the woman on a first date, as well as on subsequent days. But things aren’t quite that simple anymore, as it’s not a given that the man will pay on a first date. So nowadays, what exactly is the proper protocol on a first date? Who should pay?

Well, in a perfect world, this would be something that the two people going on a date will have talked about before the time comes when they have to pay, because then you run the risk of starring at one another awkwardly, and that can be embarrassing for both parties. But if the two people haven’t discussed this beforehand, then the man should go into the date assuming that he’s going to be paying for the date. For men, even if you hate the tradition, even if you don’t feel like it, even if you don’t understand it, and even if you’re going on a date with a woman who considers herself a feminist, you should still be prepared to pay on a first date. The fact of the matter is that paying is a sign of generosity and respect, two things that you’d like to convey on a first date. Moreover, a man offering to pay on a first date is not necessarily a sign of gender inequality; it’s merely a kind gesture towards someone you like. [Read more…]